Westfield Soccer Association

Parents can help help their children have a better sports experience

Weekly Coaches' Email 11/12/14



At last Mondays coaches meeting we were able to enjoy a presentation given by our guest speaker Jeff Bookman. Jeff has a huge amount of experience in youth soccer both in the States and England. He started his presentation by asking all the coaches present why young children decide to play soccer. Many of you know many answers to this question and the number 1 reason is not hard to come up with. Young children in general participate in youth sports because they enjoy the experience. They want to have fun!


During the presentation it was also made clear that many children drop out of youth sports because of pressure put on them by parents and coaches. With the emphasis on the outcome of games and less on the process we in general lose too many players by the time they turn 13. Over the last few months I have spoken with many of you and you all agree that making sure our players enjoy the experience is our number 1 priority.


We all know that we as coaches aren’t that have an influence on the athletic experience of our players. The parents of our players are a big part of the experience as well. It is impossible to exclude the parents in this process, so it is important that we as a club and coaches help our all parents understand how they can be or become a positive influence on their children as they participate in sports. We need to assume that they all mean well, they sometimes get overexcited and most of the times they don’t even realize that they might be hurting their own child's development.


I recently found a list with 20 ways parents can have a positive influence on their child’s athletic experience. Some might seem very simple, yet many people forget about these things when our players are playing their games.




I know the season is coming to an end, but I would like you all to share this list with the parents on your team. All parents want to be part of the experience and all together we can make sure it is a good experience for all of our players!


Our number 1 goal with our club is to make sure all our players not only enjoy the experience, but we also want to retain as many players for the sport and our program as possible!


Good luck this upcoming weekend!


Ruben Vloedgraven

Director of Coaching - Westfield Soccer Association